Qrac de la Font photo by Aurore Biron |
You know that saying about there being one
super special horse in a rider’s lifetime? I’m trying to work out whether I
believe it's true. So far, I’ve had five horses in my life, and every
single one of them has been super special to me in their own way.
Kali |
Amanda |
Amanda and I parted ways after about seven
years, sometime after I’d left the split-personalitied, insult-hurling teacher
and taken up with a rosy-cheeked, charmingly bossy, super high-energy dressage
diva. She helped me take Amanda as far as possible in the dressage arena, and
when the work became too demanding for the mare, found me with a massive young
Dutch gelding called Monty. Amanda went to live in Holland where she had a
baby, and then enjoyed a long and happy retirement.
Monty |
My partnership with Monty didn’t last very
long. The poor darling came into my life at a time when I seemed to be
particularly accident prone (double fracture with a torsion in my right leg,
followed by a shattered humeral head, both injuries sustained within twelve
months of each other, the second - basically a shattered shoulder - caused by a
particularly nasty fall from Monty), so we never really had the opportunity to
bond. Also, my children were little, and I seemed to spend my days rushing
around, trying to fit about twenty-four hours into twelve. Anyway, to cut a
long and boring story short, I decided to quit riding altogether. My high-energy
dressage diva trainer took Monty back, and I spent the next seven years
horseless, which weirdly enough for someone as horse crazy as me, went down
fine. I did lots of other things during those years, including write a couple
of books, one of which was published, while the others are still floating
around in my hard-drive, waiting to be finished or tweaked.
While I went about doing all those other
things, my daughter gradually grew into a horse-freak just like me. A couple of
tepee-housed, super cool pony camps in Ibiza during the summer holidays
hotwired her passion, and it didn’t take much convincing to get me to sign her
up for riding lessons once school resumed. Watching her lessons rekindled my
horse addiction, and before we knew it we were horse shopping in Germany. Kwintus,
a 15-year-old KWPN PSG schoolmaster arrived in Switzerland by lorry a few weeks
later.
Kwintus and Olivia |
We couldn’t have bought a better horse for
my then 15-year-old daughter. Kwintus, now happily retired, was the perfect
gentleman, an absolute teddy-bear, the type of horse you might consider
bringing home to sit on the couch to eat chocolate biscuits and watch
television with (he had a great sense of humour, so would probably have enjoyed
shows like “Modern Family”!). He was also an old pro in the dressage arena, puffing
himself up at the first sight of a braid elastic. (“Extend the trot down the
diagonal? No probs, honey, I got this!”) Kwintus won Olivia first place in
their first ever competition with close to 70%, a dizzying score for Switzerland
where judges tend not to dish out 7s willy nilly.
Kwintus also got me back in the saddle,
re-established my confidence, and gave me a pretty good idea about what riding
a decent level of dressage should feel like. He wowed both my daughter and I
with wonderfully straight, perfectly rhythmical tempi-changes (up to the
two’s), nice pirouettes and half-passes, movements neither of us had ever
experienced before. Kwintus was definitely a very special horse with an
enormous heart who would just give, and give, and give. He’d probably given so
much before we bought him that within a couple of years he started showing
signs of arthritis in his neck, which made him trip over every so often. We
treated the problem once or twice with infiltrations to keep him comfortable, but
when he turned 18 and my daughter went off to University in England, I made the
decision to retire him. He deserved it. If ever a horse was loved, Kwintus was,
not only by my daughter and I, but also by one of his previous owners who still
regularly asks after him.
Retiring Kwintus was tough on me. Not
only had I lost my horse, but I’d also watched my daughter go off to University
in a land faraway across the sea. Ok, so Cornwall isn’t all that far from
Switzerland if you compare it to the distance between, say, New York and San
Francisco, but, believe me, you can get from New York to San Francisco far more
easily and quickly than you can get from Geneva to Falmouth. Last Christmas it
took my daughter three days to get home! Ok, so there were wild storms and
electric cuts and floods and flight cancellations involved, but still. Getting
to the “wall of Corn” is by no means straightforward.
But I digress. Basically, with my daughter
gone and no horse to ride I got very sad, and so after a while my husband got
fed up with my moping and said, “for goodness sake, Cesca, go and buy yourself
another horse before you drive me mental.” Or words to that effect.
There’s nothing like horse-shopping to
cheer up a horse-crazy empty-nester-menopausal misery guts. A few months later
my trainer and I took a trip to the South of France where I fell for a
beautiful dark bay Lusitano stallion, Qrac de la Font.
Qrac and me, September 2014 |
I would never have been able to buy a horse
like Qrac if I hadn’t had the experience of a horse like Kwintus beforehand.
Even so, riding him was, initially, quite a challenge. There were moments when
I really had to breathe deep, stay calm and dig deep for my courage. For a
seven-year-old, Qrac had very little work and could be quite a handful. He’s an
emotional horse, he’s super sensitive, and his spins to the left are legendary!
I had him gelded a year and a half after buying him, and never regretted taking
that decision (I wrote about it here on the blog at the time).
Qrac makes me smile every single day. He’s
my sunshine, my daily treat. He’s a challenge, a work in constant progress, a
silly billy, a very clever boy. As my daughter puts it, he’s my “best thing”
and I have withdrawals if I don’t go and see him every day. I worry about him, think
about him, play dress up with him (he has a vast collection of blingy saddle
blankets), and fuss over him like a crazy person. The progress we’ve made in
the three and a half years we’ve been together makes me very proud because what
we’ve achieved, we’ve achieved without any outside help apart from really good
trainers on the ground.
I’ve loved all my horses, but there’s
definitely something special about my relationship with Qrac, just as there was
something special about my daughter’s relationship with Kwintus.
It bothers me to say that Qrac is the super
special horse of my lifetime because it somehow feels like I’m betraying the other
horses I owned, downplaying all the great times I shared with them, belittling
the amazing things each of them brought to me. So in a very zany conclusion,
I’m tempted to say that thinking about my previous horses is a bit like
thinking about old boyfriends; some suited me more than others, but I had
strong feelings for them all.
And that I deeply love the one I’m with.
Or something like that!
Do you know what I mean? Do you or did you
once have a super special horse?
8 comments:
Thank you for sharing your horse journey with us, Francesca. We learn so much from every horse we know and ride, don't we? I'm glad you've found that special one for you now, although each has been special in their own way. Great post!
Really like this post and love your comment about how your current boy is your "best thing". He is gorgeous! Also appreciate previous posts about how well you have cared for your beloved retiree.
Linda, thank you for commenting. I can't believe it's been a year since my last post... I have so many stories to share about my journey with Qrac in the past twelve months.
And EDB, thank you for reading and leaving a comment. I'm glad you enjoyed my previous posts. I've missed posting on here, and intend to do so more regularly again:)
Eh, I tend not to think in horse of a lifetime terms, I've loved lots of different horses in different ways. Like people - one love does not detract from another.
I was pleased to see a post from you! I have missed hearing about Qrac. He is such a handsome boy! All our horses touch us in special ways, some more than others. My special horse was a handsome dark bay Thoroughbred gelding named Nonchalant. He was my soul horse...just something special. He was kind of stand offish, didn't particularly enjoy being brushed, but he would have jumped the moon for me if I had asked. He was large (17.2H) but such a nice guy that I often used him to teach my beginning riders on. After not enough years I had to retire him with arthritis in his feet. But he enjoyed lazing about and I enjoyed having him in my backyard. Sadly, his life was cut short when he somehow broke his leg at the age of 19. A loss I still feel so deeply to this day...11 years later.
"...go and buy yourself another horse before you drive me mental.” Your husband is awesome! ;)
I have two very special horses and have had a few in between that I never really bonded with, although I learned lots from all of them. I don't think that you are limited to one SUPER special horse in your lifetime, but I think there are sometimes ones that we form more special partnerships with than others. You are very lucky to have had so many wonderful partnerships!
FD, exactly :) Thanks for reading and leaving a comment.
Kris, I'm touched by you saying you missed hearing about Qrac. Loads of has happened in a year, we've come so far, it's amazing. We're even doing our first pas-de-deux to music on Saturday to close the internal competition at my stables to celebrate the one year anniversary! It's a great place, with a great atmosphere, and the horses are so well looked after, with daily turnout. I'm also riding a dressage program Saturday afternoon, the most difficult one I've ever done so far. I hope I'll have fun stuff to say about it next week, and some nice photos.
Nonchalant sounds like a grumpier form of Kwintus :) These horses affect us so much, they really get us on an emotional level none-horsey people cannot comprehend.
Jenj: Ha! My husband is pretty awesome! You're right about us not being limited to ONE super special horse, I think they're all super special when we're actually in a relationship with them, or if not super special in a positive rosy way, at least in the the way we interact with them, or find ways to interact with them. Or something like that... Thanks for commenting :) xx
Thank you for posting, Cesca, I missed you and your stories about Qrac. Now that you'e back in the blogging 'saddle' don't stop.
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