by Laura Crum
After
my recent post “Freak Accidents” I read several posts on other horse blogs that
touched on the same topic. One was clearly inspired by my post (she referenced
it—thanks jenj at Wyvern Oaks, listed on the sidebar) and a couple were both on
a sort of alternate subject—as in the idea that you create a disaster by
expecting one. Since my post was basically advocating that we stay alert and
vigilant, such that we can mitigate or prevent a disaster before it occurs, I
gave some thought to the idea proposed—that by expecting a good outcome we can
help create one. And by expecting/preparing for a bad result, we help create
that, too.
I
don’t entirely disagree with this. No smart person who works with horses and/or
dogs will have failed to notice that by holding a calm, confident, relaxed
attitude and expecting things to go well, you can nudge things in the direction
of going well. It works on kids and chickens, too. But…I do have a few points
to add.
First
off, it’s my contention that the two points of view aren’t really in conflict.
I know, because I do both. For example, riding Sunny down the trail by myself,
I see an odd looking stump up ahead and recognize by Sunny’s body language
(pricked ears, body tension, reluctance to approach said stump) that he is
worried about it. Now, I did not create this by worrying about the stump myself
or imagining that Sunny might be afraid of the stump. I don’t expect Sunny to
be afraid of anything—and this is realistic, since he rarely spooks. I ride
along the trail expecting him to be relaxed and confident, as he usually IS
relaxed and confident. Thus I, too, am relaxed and confident on the trail.
I
wish to contrast this to the point of view raised by another blogger, in which
she describes being worried because her horse always “looks” at a certain
stump, and then feeling that her own worry has created a situation where the
horse spooks. Well, yeah, it could, sure. If you tense up, even minutely, and
you are thinking about your horse possibly spooking at the stump long before
she even sees the stump, you can definitely bring on the spook through
expecting it. But this is a different equation from being relaxed yourself and
at the same time being aware that your horse is thinking of spooking.
So,
let us say, that I am quite relaxed and confident, but I can tell Sunny is
thinking of spooking at the stump. Shall I just decide that I’m going to
envision him not spooking and go merrily along? Uhmm, no. I don’t think that
will be be very helpful. I honestly don’t believe any “good vibes” coming from
me will stop my horse from spooking if he’s decided to spook. What works for me
is awareness and being prepared. I don’t get tense, and I’m not particularly
worried—I can ride a spook. But I do make sure that I am holding the saddle
horn, I relax my body further, and I am very careful to keep the reins loose
and my legs loose. I bump Sunny lightly with my heels to encourage him forward
and I am apt to say something in a relaxed, conversational tone. “Its just a
stump you silly horse.” And I prepare to ride the spook.
Sure
enough, Sunny spooks, one of those sudden, now-you-are-facing-the-opposite-way
spooks. I ride it. I check Sunny, turn him back around, and still relaxed, let
him know we are going by the stump. Sunny is wary, but he’s not dumb. He’s
already figured out the horse eating monster is a stump, and he can tell I’m
not worried—either about the stump or his spook. He snorts, and bows his neck
up, but he walks on by.
So…if
I am happily pretending that Sunny will not spook, and envisioning him walking
along the trail steadily, even though he is clearly communicating to me that he
is going to spook, I think the only likely result is 1) I am more likely to
come off, and 2) the spook is more likely to escalate into a blot if he catches
me off balance and unprepared. By preparing to ride the spook, and being ready
to check him, I have turned the spook into a very minor incident.
It’s
my contention that we need to ride in a relaxed, confident frame (as much as we
can), and I think this is simply obvious. But I have saved myself so much grief
by seeing trouble coming and being prepared, that I will add that
pretending/envisioning that something is not going to happen when it is very
clearly brewing, is just dumb.
So
now lets take dogs. Here are my two (very funny looking) dogs. Jojo is half
Aussie shepherd, half Jack Russell, and Star is a little rescue mutt—we think
Chihuahua, terrier and dachshund.
Both
my two dogs will come back to me when called. The old dog (Jojo is 15 years
old) is getting deaf, so that is a problem. Still, if she hears me, she will
come. But both of them are not reliable if they become interested in another
dog. So when they are off leash at the beach or on the trails, I remain alert.
And when I see another dog, I call my dogs back immediately. If I call them
before their interest has been engaged, and when the dog is still a ways away,
they WILL come back to me. And then I leash them and we walk by the dog. No big
deal.
If,
for instance, I decide not to call my dogs and leash them, and instead hold the
thought (despite all prior behavior) that they will come to me and stay with me
as we pass the dog…well, its my firm belief that I would end up with a mess. If
the dog was friendly it might be run and play, but if it was not, it might be a
fight. It’s not worth the risk and bother.
Here’s
the deal. My dogs mind me well enough. I’m not sure what to say about folks who
can’t walk their dog by another dog while ON the leash. I’ve never had that
problem. But I also don’t get bent out of shape thinking that my dogs must heel
perfectly off leash. I don’t worry about it, I don’t stress over meeting other
dogs. Just like when I’m on my horse, I cruise along relaxed and confident (or
fat, dumb and happy, if you prefer) and I remain alert. Thus I spot the
potential problem (or dog) before it is a problem, and I call my dogs back and
leash them and on we go. It’s no big deal.
So
here’s my response to the idea that you can create a positive outcome by
envisioning it. Yes and no. By remaining relaxed and confident you increase the
chances that your horse/dog/kid will also be relaxed and confident. By being
alert for potential trouble at the same time that you remain relaxed and
confident you vastly increase your chances of being spared that potentially
disastrous wreck. Blind confidence is no help at all. It only makes a true
disaster more likely. And believe me, I have seen that outcome…though (partly)
thanks to my vigilance I have so far been spared such a thing (knocking on
wood).
So
what do you think? I think its an interesting subject and worth discussing.